|Lookin at her perfect face, 3 days old|
-- I'm so thankful I wasn't induced. While my labor was long, my body knew when to take breaks, both for my sake and for Eowyn's. My contractions eased so I was able to sleep for 4 hoursish, and then were spaced enough at various points throughout the next 12 hours that I was able to rest and refuel. Once you are on a pitocin drip, your uterus is essentially being forced to contract without any regard to the signals the rest of the body (and baby's body) is sending-- such as "we need to rest!" While some doctors are willing to turn the pitocin down and let a mom sleep, most do the opposite and keep turning it up until a baby is out (especially if your water has already been broken).
|Very tired, but happy 1 day after birth (with Ryan & his mama)|
-- Hydrotherapy, counter-pressure, emotional support, and moving around are the best ways to avoid thinking about pain meds for most moms. Also having an environment where they aren't even mentioned-- like I said, I never even thought about them. Now if I'd been alone, in a bed, told to lay on my back, told I'd probably need meds soon... that would have been different.
-- While much of my family was in town, since they drove there wasn't the pressure of being on a timetable lest they miss meeting the baby. This is huge. As a doula, one of my first recommendations to my clients is: unless you want your family member helping you IN labor, tell them to schedule their trip 2 weeks after your due date. That way, they're sure to meet the baby, and you won't be pressured or anxious to have the baby in a certain time frame!
-- I will remember to keep my pitch "low" next time. Now I know that it's instinct for most first-time moms to tense up with each contraction and let out these higher-pitched moans & screams, but these just serve to keep mom's whole body tense. Far better to keep a lower pitch (my tagline is usually "try to sound like a cow...a very feminine, sexy cow") which leads to relaxation. Had someone been coaching me to do that-- to keep my mouth loose and my pitch low-- I may not have torn so badly.
-- In future I will try to push to the "ring of fire" and then stop and pant/blow. With Eowyn I was so tired of being in labor, and just so tired in general, that we were all just concerned with being done! and I didn't really care at all about how much pressure or burning I felt in the process. Having gone through the recovery now, I'll (maybe) care a little more. :)
|Was she really this small??|